As an aspiring leader myself, I’ve been interested in books about leadership and building confidence. If becoming a good leader is one of your goals, then I recommend you read the book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You. This book summarizes leadership rather well, and I was able to learn a lot from it.
I understand that this book in particular might not be in the radar for most of the readers of my blog, but to ease those people into this book I’ll just say that being a strong leader at its core means you are confident in your own ability to lead people, and that you are confident in general. That’s not really all there is to this book, but it of course plays a huge role, as we all know already.
There is, however, a difference between a confident person, and a confident leader. There are also different types of confidence, which is something I want to write about later, but let’s stick to today’s topic for now.
I’ll introduce you to a couple of laws presented in the book, and if it seems interesting, I encourage you to read it for yourself.
The Law of Solid Ground
Trust Is the Foundation of Leadership
Trust really is the key to being a good leader. Any kind of leader needs to be trustworthy, no matter how inconsequential the role of the leader might seem at first. Let’s say you’re touring someone, a friend in your own city, this is a moment when you are in fact a leader to that friend, and that friend must be able to trust you. Lucky for you, he or she is already a friend, so trust is already established between you two, but this also helps you understand this topic in general. Trust is something you build over time.
Trust is built mainly on three main principles:
- Good judgment
All of these are related. When you run into a situation where your judgment is needed, and you can’t judge it well, you are more than likely going to end up not treating everyone fairly, which in turn makes you seem dishonest – and therefore untrustworthy.
A good leader is someone who remains consistent in all of these three main principles of trust, and builds a solid foundation with his or her team members. It’s a gradual process, so take your time. Also, even if you aren’t a ‘leader’ right now, simply trying to apply all these 3 principles to your life will, and this is my opinion, improve the quality of your life and make you more confident.
The Law of Respect
People Naturally Follow Leaders Stronger Than Themselves
Trust is something that makes people want to do things for you, but it’s respect that makes your followers stick by your side. Leader’s role is to be in the front of the group, ahead of everyone else. This is what people following you want from you. Someone who is simply more skilled, more courageous, more determined than anyone else in the group. Someone who is willing to go in first in any given situation. Being this kind of a person takes large amounts of confidence, of course, but you shouldn’t worry as it comes naturally once you decide to be the leader.
Followers flock to you initially because of something that you did previously. Something that they respect. That however, is not enough, this respect must be earned again and again over long period of time. A leader, once again, is someone who stays consistent and provides results. This is how you gain respect.
One of the best ways to earn respect is when you loyally devote yourself to your followers well-being. Take good care of the people that you lead, and keep doing it, and you will gain and re-gain respect over and over again. But of course this is just one example, as there are plethora of ways to gain respect. Consistency is what matters the most.
The Law of Victory
Leaders Find a Way for the Team to Win
We talk about individuals who can’t take a loss as sore losers. You are supposed to take a loss on the chin. I think this is sound advice, for most people. However, when it comes to leaders, losing is not an option.
That’s correct. A true leader is someone who is not afraid of losing, but at the same time hates losing. You must be driven to win and seem like a leader. ‘Whatever’ attitude just isn’t what leaders can afford to have. But we must also understand that losses are inevitable and unavoidable, and it’s at those times when a leader is tested. See, when the time comes and you do lose, that is when you must not give up – instead you must get up and go for the victory a second time. That is what it means to be a leader, and that is the law of victory.
It’s about not giving up.
Thank you again for reading my article on this book. I hope you got something out of it.
I recommend this book to anyone who is an aspiring leader, like myself. I would argue that knowing this information even if you aren’t exactly the leader type would prove useful. You’d be surprised how many times you have already been a leader by accident, and how many times more you’ll be a little leader to someone out there.
If you got interested, you can buy the book here: The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You